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CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE CENTER |
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Marriage is the union of two people who each bring into the marriage their own individual issues. Romantic love during dating often hides individual woundedness. After marriage, when romantic love fades, it is all too often replaced by frustration and disappointment. Each person thought they had found someone who made them feel whole. “What happened to the person I dated?”
The Marriage Dance Most marriages get locked in a very negative dance. One spouse acts and the other reacts, starting a negative spiral. Nothing is ever resolved. The pain and frustration just builds. Walls are built between spouses. Bitterness builds and affection is damaged. It is like a feud that no one knows how to end and no one can exactly remember how it started.. Left unchecked, the negative spiral can lead to divorce when one spouse will no longer handle the pain and loneliness.
Breaking The Spiral Our job is to help each spouse see his/her part and disengage from the dance. I help couples break this cycle in a direct, neutral, loving & biblically based manner.
The Crucible Marriage is an institution designed by God.
The storms of marriage are meant to bring us to our knees.
It is a crucible designed for our growth and healing.
That’s why He designed marriage as a permanent vow. He knew it would get hard and we would want to quit.
Present society has now redefined marriage as a self-fulfillment arrangement. If we do not feel fulfilled, we divorce. And in doing so, we miss the crucible, and miss the healing and growth God intends.
The way out is through.
See Constructing the Sexual Crucible by David Schnarch, Ph.D. |
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Marriage As Crucible |
